Part 2 of Adultery on Demand

 Trading Spouses -
 ntcc's way;
 but NOT God's Way! 

We have covered this topic quite a bit; but it just seems to continue to come up in my thoughts and prayers.  You have seen it before; and you will see it again in the ntcc:  The once married, now single Christian ends up in:

A. St. Louis, MO to be matched up with a recycled spouse.
B. Graham, WA to be matched up with a recycled spouse.
C. Phoenix, AZ to be matched up with a recycled spouse.
D. On the "revival" circuit to find a new spouse [ahem].

I know there are many in the ntcc that will not receive this; after all, in their eyes, we are just "negative and bitter X-ers that have an aXe to grind".  While pondering all this, I couldn't help but think about

  the complete disregard for the institution of marriage that is exhibited by the ntcc.  The vows that a man and woman take are supposed to be for life; and God has much to say about the commitment of marriage.  

It's plain to see that divorce and the breaking up of families is a huge problem in the ntcc.  There are wives and husbands that are in the ntcc that have put away their spouses and are now on their 2nd, 3rd and 4th marriages in what obviously is commonplace in the ntcc.

This is nothing more than spouse swapping!  The men and women of the ntcc might as well throw their car keys in a big bowl and have a drawing; whoever pulls out your keys is the one you drive home with!

In ntcc if you get tired of your spouse, not to worry; the ntcc leadership can (and will) match-make you with a recycled spouse; everything will be okay!  I have to wonder if folks in the ntcc even read their bibles; or do they just refuse to believe in the scriptures that deal with divorce and adultery?  Instead they listen to false doctrines of men that make them adulterers and adulteresses.  They buy into the li(n)e that if Pastor says it's okay, it's okay.  I wouldn't want to get marriage counsel from an adulterer.

A little over a year ago, I came to God just as I was.  I didn't prepare my life or try to change what I was; but in the realization of my spiritual condition, I asked for forgiveness and experienced salvation.  Prior to this, I had forsaken God and chose to live a life contrary to that which I knew to be true.  God had mercy on me and not only forgave me but also gave me a wife.

I saw many in the ntcc treat their wives like a dog that peed on their carpet or like property or even worse, but few that really lived an example of love for one another.  I love my wife.  She is the most important person on this earth to me.  I have no desire to control her or to manipulate her.  I was serious about the vows that we took; and I plan on spending the rest of my life with her.  By the grace of God our marriage will be a biblical one; and we will not disregard God's word and become dissatisfied with what God has put together.

In the ntcc men have found their vows to be meaningless and chosen to dump the wives that they were joined together with so that they could move on to a different situation.

I think the CULTure in the ntcc creates an environment that makes women slaves to preachers that have been taught to believe that they are a god to their wives.  They are taught to treat their women with little or no respect.

When a woman is abused sexually, physically, mentally or spiritually and she tries to get help from the ntcc leadership, more often than not, she is not believed; and she is expected to continue allowing that man to abuse her.

When women try to seek help at a time when they have been betrayed by their husbands, the ntcc leadership will often blame them for being "too fat and undesirable" to please their husbands; which are, in many cases, also "fat and undesirable" themselves.

This type of behavior is not what you would find displayed in a Christian church!  Why do ntcc'ers have such a hard time believing that they are in a cult?  Why are we made out to be "the devil" and "haters of God", when all we do is point to the sad truth of what the ntcc is all about?

To those that are in the ntcc that read this blog, please think really hard before you allow someone to influence and destroy your relationship with your family!  Love and cherish the wife or husband that God gave you and seek not another.  Honor your vows.  If the unbelieving wife (or husband) is pleased to dwell with you, don't put them away and marry another spouse.  The unbeliever is sanctified by the believer.

Don't allow the ntcc to decide for you that your spouse is an unbeliever and needs to be put away!  Just because someone wants to serve God in a church other than ntcc, that does not mean they have departed from the faith.  There is no biblical grounds for the ntcc spouse to divorce them.

Beware of the Pharisees.  Beware of the wedges that they try to drive in between families, recommending divorce simply because one person wants to serve God in a different church!  As the bond of marriage is destroyed so also is the family destroyed.  Once the family is destroyed there is very little that can be done to restore it, especially when a man DX's* his wife for a newer model; or the wife does the same.
*[DX is military jargon for Direct eXchange, substituting one like thing for another.  That's fine for a jacket that doesn't fit but inappropriate treatment of a life partner as God intended your spouse to be.]

Before deciding to allow ntcc to destroy your family, do yourself a favor.  Get to a movie theater and watch "Courageous".  Those vows are meant to be sacred!  If you can't afford to go to a theater, the DVD will be released soon.  In the mean time check the local library or at least pick up a copy of "Fireproof" and watch it.  Never leave your partner behind.

Courageous Movie Trailer:  Video Link



Fireproof:
Salt and Pepper - Video Link



Please note:

A marriage as God intends does not include any form of abuse.

If two are one, how can one abuse oneself?  Will you yell at yourself or punch yourself?  That is not natural.  If you are in an abusive relationship, please remove yourself to a safe environment and seek help, preferably OUTSIDE the ntcc.  Too many people have sought help from the ntcc leaders and have been further abused by their poor counsel to "stay and obey" even when physical abuse was present.  That is not God's plan for you, His Beloved.

What if you are guilty of adultery as defined by the gospels?

Matthew 5:32

Matthew 19:9

Mark 10:11-12

Luke 16:18

REPENT

NAME THAT SIN

ASK GOD TO FORGIVE YOU

MAKE AMENDS AS HE DIRECTS YOU 

Remember:  King David committed adultery with Bathsheba.  He then had her husband murdered.  When confronted with these sins, David acknowledged his sin.  Under the Law of Moses he and Bathsheba should have been killed as judgment.  But David understood and believed in the mercy of God.  If David could repent through confession and belief, so can anyone who believes the scripture:

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us [our] sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.  1 John 1:9

Your families are counting on you.  Choose life.

Why Delete The Truth?

Hmnn...To Delete Or Not... 

On Deb's and Greg's blog, on the thread titled The Fear and Frustration in facing Pastor Davis. Fresh from the manly mind of Pastor Briggs... a former ntcc minister (who at one time lived in the Hawaii ntcc servicemens' home) named Kris M. asked Greg or Deb to remove all of Kris's previous comments from their blog.  Here's our reaction to this:  

Don and Ange said...

Greg, we are glad you don't have time right now to delete Kris's comments. 

Kris wrote such good  comments with real insight to how ntcc operates based solely on his personal experience and growing knowledge of the bible.  It seems counterproductive to remove these true stories.

We wonder if Kris has left the ntcc only physically, but is still held captive by the ntcc spiritually.

ntcc uses fear to control people.  ntcc even twists a natural fear or reverence of God into an unnatural fearful spirit that makes people do strange things.  People are too afraid of God; we wonder if that is the case here too.

God did instruct not to touch His anointed; yet God also records instances of His anointed being corrected and even rebuked.

The bible admonishes us to study the word so we can rightly divide the word of truth.

God never intended our reverence of Him to cause us to  hide hypocrisy.  Jesus clearly openly rebuked the hypocrites, warning them of impending judgment.

We don't need to fear eXposing ntcc's rampant hypocrisy, and double standards, and blatant sin.  We should see it as our duty to sound the trumpet to warn others of the ntcc's false doctrines just as the apostles clearly warned Christians of false teachers; writing letters that are now the books of the new testament.  They constantly detailed the differences between real Christianity and hypocrisy.  There is no shame in the truth  and no need to delete or hide our comments or articles based on real life experiences and knowledge of the truth.

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Today's Subject: All are Welcome!

Come Into My Parlor ...

... Said The Spyder To The Fly ...

At ntcc I'm sure you've heard the expression:

"All are welcome"

While this is a catch phrase ntcc uses to allure people out to their cult meetings, it is actually a true statement.  They do welcome all to their cult meetings.  They welcome all so they can blast all.  At ntcc the doors are open to all; but if you don't like the preaching, "Don't let the door hit you where the good Lord split you!" ...

Most of what I've seen in my years of servitude in the servicemen's homes was that many of the pastors would run people off before they ever got a chance to consider being saved.  The ntcc preacher would preach salvation through one side of his mouth, holiness through the other side of his mouth while making it personal by scowling and growling, then using his fingers to point at folks, while glaring with his eyes to make them feel more uncomfortable.  All this on top of the conviction of the Holy Ghost.  It's a wonder any of us ever got saved.

Let's take a closer look at who's welcome and who is not. 

WELCOME:

1.  Saved - definition varies from pastor to pastor.

2.  Tithe payer.

3.  Gives in all offerings.

4.  Men must dress like dorks in wingtips, white shirts, and polyester slacks.

5.  Women must wear dresses, skirts and scarves.

6.  Women are made to wear wigs if their natural hear is too short or sloppy for ntcc standards.

7.   Men and Women must attend all sevices and events.

8.  Men and Women that shout AMEN and PREACH to everything the preacher says are always welcome.

NOT WELCOME:

1.  Unsaved after their 1st service.

2.  Those who don't pay tithe.

3.  Those who don't give in offerings.

4.   Men who wear shorts, jeans, t-shirts, tight clothing, or if they look too cool.

5.   Men who are not clean shaven.

6.   Men with tattoos that show, piercings or long hair.

7.   Women with short hair.

8.   Women wearing pants, shorts and tight clothing.

9.   Women that believe they are to be treated equal to men.

10. Women and men that disagree with anything that comes accross the pulpit.

11. Women that are called to do something other than wash dishes and cook.

12. Women that wear make-up.

13. Men who wear double-breasted suits.

14. Those who have televisions, unless they are used to advertise for church.

15.  No child molesters unless they are a future board member  fondling the founder's daughter, or are on a double date with him doing the same, or if it is the founder himself fondling a young girl, or if he runs the print shop, or works in the office for rodger w. davis.

16.  Children that "hinder the work of Gawd".

Do you get the picture here?  Now I'm not saying that ntcc preachers always blast people on these points from behind the pulpit; but these are some of the do's and dont's that will eventually get you an invitation to leave the org. if they are not adhered to.  While you might not be blasted on all of these items from behind the pulpit you will be made to feel unwelcome.  ntcc knows that if they can make people feel unwelcome those folks  won't come back.

The emphasis in ntcc is placed more on the standards than it is on the Love of Christ.  

There is however one subject that will always without fail get you blasted from behind the pulpit and that is not paying tithe or giving in offerings.  If ntcc pastors were to spend their time behind the pulpit preaching the love of God and lifting up Christ rather than coming across like a snake oil salesmen after your money, they would get more people to stay and give willingly; and their churches would prosper. 

I remember there was this older guy that used to come out to the servicemen's home in Ft. Bragg and give large amounts of money in the offerings; and he would bring hundreds of one dollar bills and give them out to the brethren.  He was allowed to hang around inspite of the fact that he didn't conform to any of the ntcc standards other than the money flow standards.  He hung around through 3 pastor's and even showed up at a conference at Holly Hills and was praised by rwd from behind the pulpit.  It turned out that this man was a homosexual that was attracted to the young men at the servicemen's home and was finally run off after it was reported that he physically tried to get into the pants of one of the servicemen; but this advance was refused; and the man was outed by the shocked soldier.

As for # 15 on the list of dont's I would like to leave the following disclaimer.  While I believe it happened and that the eye wittness accounts are reliable, I havn't seen irrefutable evidence that proves it actually happened.  I will say this however.  At ntcc we are expected to "abstain from the very appearence of evil".  We are also taught and preached to about how important our testimony is.  We do not go into bars because we don't want to damage our testimony.  What is the ntcc leadership thinking?  In most states this is called statutory rape and is punishable by a prison sentence.  This just shows the arrogance and the double standard that the leadership of ntcc lives by.  Did kekel and teenya have to go sit on the wall after asking permission to speak from rwd?  No?  Surely they were not allowed to be alone where they would be tempted to feel each other up?  But that is what happened.  Hmmn.   I'm sure, being the examples of beleiver's that they claim to be, that they would not do anything to bring shame on the work of God...  Would they?  But they did bring shame and refused to repent.  They probably did worse than all their peers who allegedly made the rules.  I'm sure they have always felt the rules do not apply to them.

Wow, I wonder what would happen if Christians were trusted to make their own decisions regarding dating and relationships.  What would happen if Christians were trusted to guard their own testimonies or to "work out your own salvation"?  I wonder if there would be more joy in the ntcc Christians' lives and if they would be more productive.

I've often heard preachers at ntcc say," I've never seen a Charismatic get saved.  I've never seen a person from a certain ethnic group get saved.  I've never seen a homosexual get saved."  I believe this may be true; they have never seen it; because they don't believe it will happen.  I believe that none of these have a chance in the ntcc; because they are so quickly run off.  How can they get saved if they are hated and run out of the church?  Is the blood of Christ not powerful enough to save a homosexual or a Charismatic or a Puerto Rican or any other group that's "hard to save"?  Maybe it's because ntcc has passed all of these groups off as reprobates; or maybe it's because they are not good tithers.  How can they repent if they are not brought to the foot of the Cross?

Next time you see an ntcc church flyer or T.V. ad, or hear an ntcc soul winner or pastor say that all are welcome, believe them.  They will shake your hand before and after church service.  They will not refuse your money.  But if you are looking for a church that will allow God to move in your life, you would be better served by going to an online e-church service where at least you don't have to worry about getting germs from a phony hand-shake.